I'm a high-achiever, just like you. I spent years stuck in the same cycle you're in, ..Ā I thought my husband was the problem. I knew that if we could just talk about what was going on, we could fix things together. (Guess what? This made everything 10 times worse!)
I tried everything to fix my marriage, but nothing seemed to work. It's when I learned about nervous system regulation and how couples get stuck, that I learned the truth. My emotional dysregulation created his emotional dysregulation. My survival strategies were keeping us stuck.
So I learned the difference between responding and reacting. I understood that his upset, .. his emotional state was not my fault. And I learned to hold onto what I truly felt instead of collapsing. With this, everything changed.Ā
Now, I teach high-achieving women how to do the same. But, it's not for everybody. This is really hard work. It's only for women who are ready take responsibility, do the work and show up differently. If this sounds like you, let's talk.
To Your Relationship,
MargaretĀ